Monday, 22 September 2014

#EverydayIssues - Meeting New People

Hello my lovelies!

A little while ago I mentioned a project titled everyday issues which I'll be using to discuss the little (and large) things in life that we all struggle to cope with. I think it's about time to share with you some of the things I've been writing about. I give you the first post addressing an everyday issue I know a lot of you guys will be worrying about as the new academic year rolls in. I know many of you will have started at a new school or will soon be starting college or university and a big part of these changes is the introduction of new people in to your life. 


We meet new people every single day of our lives, most of the time they are in the background - people who pass us on the street or who are briefly in the same room as us - but every once in a while we find ourselves in a situation where we know absolutely no-one but we're expected to talk to them. For people who suffer with anxiety, meeting new people in a situation where you need to talk to strangers can be incredibly stressful yet for others it's something that comes naturally. 

Everyone gets scared or nervous, it's not something we should be ashamed of. Of course you're going to be wary, you don't know these people and they don't know you. What if they're more intelligent? What if you stumble over your words and feel embarrassed? What if they think they're better than you? The questions run through your mind, making you panic. But is it really all that scary? You should be able to answer every single one of those questions with 'So what?'. So what if you trip over walking to them? You can laugh it off. So what if you're not funny to them? At least you gave it a go. 


The one thing to always remember is that you should never change your personality just to please the other person. Be yourself. They're probably just as nervous as you are.

You need to feel confident yet cautious, saying the wrong thing might offend and then you'll be remembered for all the wrong reasons. You want to impress someone by being yourself because no-one can fault you for just being you. Certain situations do call for certain behaviours however. A strong handshake is always a good approach when meeting someone new in a formal situation whether that's at a formal event like a gala or at a job interview but at a house party or in class a simple 'Hi, I'm ---' can be enough to start a beautiful friendship. 


Have you ever been in a situation where you've been uncomfortable or unsure because you don't know anyone? Share in the comments your story or if you're shy, send me an email. Just because it's a small issue, doesn't mean it's not something that can be worked on or talked about! 

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Love you all,

T
xxx